A few of
moments last week led to these thoughts
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we are behaving in a way
that is quite unnatural to us. Speaking and acting as though we were another
person. Quite often this happens in a work situation where, over time, we
divorce our true personality and opinion from our ‘professional’ persona or how
we think we should be at our job.
More often than not this is because of the desire to fit in, not to be
different, to not say what we really think in case it is unpopular and might
count against us. We can become a reflector of those around us knowing that by
mirroring behaviour we can exist without problems. Other people’s attitudes
begin to clothe us.
There is a health warning with this approach. It is hard to continue to
lead two lives, the one that exists at work and the one that lives with our
families and friends. It can cause hidden stress as we subconsciously switch
between our two selves in different situations.
It is so much simpler, so much more rewarding and in the end so much
more positive to be ourselves in all situations. To know that people respect us
for what we think and care about because that is who we are and not who we can
pretend to be. But it is hard because you have to have the confidence
that the true ‘you’ can be the professional ‘you’ as well – but of course you
can.
So take a moment to think whether you are acting a part to suit others.
If you are be careful, because you don’t want to spend you life wearing ‘clothes’
made for you by others.
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